My brother-in-law is in the Army Special Forces in Afghanistan. We were visiting over Christmas, and he was talking about CIA operatives, and how they can talk to anyone and gather information. As far as I could gather, it’s a one-person job. Then I remembered a friend of mine telling me that leading a board of directors means you have to get agreement from the individuals before you take it to the group as a whole.
Put these together and you get an effective strategy for unifying people.
So maybe a part of leadership is to connect with people individually and finding out what they’re capable of by gathering information. But I think the key is your ability to build trust. Because without trust, people aren’t gonna trust you; they’re more likely to wonder what you’re up to.